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TA Script Theory 8

(Script is a self authored life plan written in early childhood. It governs the general course of a person's life. It is 'directed' to achieve a life goal or script payoff. )
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Becoming Script-free - 2.1

Becoming script-free is not an easy process. It is also not impossible to become script-free.

Let us imagine a pail of water placed on a gas stove with flame on. The water is sure to heat up if not boil after a while. We are disturbed because the water is hot. We want to cool it. There are two ways. One way is to add ice to the water to cool it. Another way is to put off the flame and allow the water to cool.

To me anything done that does not put off the flame deep within the psychic organisation is not going to render the script inactive. It shows up one way or another. A script be it good or bad, beneficial or harmful provides a structure to live our life. This structure maintains its homoeostasis. It has its inertia. It resists change. Being aware of the challenge helps to dismantle it intelligently. There are three approaches I know of, and which I have implemented and they have worked for me. They are laid out here:

1. Act in the moment without planning. I call this using the back door.
2. Do many things that amount to accounting.
3. Go deep below and dismantle the script.

These I will be covering in the next blog. However, some preparatory work is necessary for any or all of these to succeed. They are outlined here:

• Install a permissive Parent. A non permissive Parent is a Punitive Parent. A Punitive Parent uses abusive slang in mind talk. Identify this sort of mind talk, wonder what a Permissive-Nurturing Parent would say in lieu. As an example: What a fool I am to make such a mistake. This is a response to an unheard Parent dialogue which says: You idiot. Why are you not careful. So catch and replace it by saying this replacing the previous dialogue: Oh! a mistake has occurred (not I have committed a mistake). I will be careful next time round. This process will in time generate the installation of a Permissive Parent.
• Install an Acquiescent Free Child. Acquiescence is marked by reluctant agreement or approval without protest. When I have to go somewhere and circumstances get me to change plans . . . . I feel hurt, sorry, pained  . . . .  I get in touch with my hurt, anger or pain and stay with it for a while. I accept it. Then say it is OK to feel this pain. I hare it with someone close to me. Next time round its intensity will be substantially lower. Such a Child is also installed by eating a meal a day over 40 minutes by doing nothing else. No paper, no mobile, no TV, no chatting nothing at all. Pay attention to the colours, flavours, aromas, hot and cold, consistency of the food. Eating slowly and deliberately helps. One morsel at a time. Next one goes into the mouth when the previous one is down the throat and count of ten. In about six weeks you will find that you will be able to deal with feelings, thoughts and thinking patterns, behaviours, accepting easily.

Continued in next blog . . . .

This blog comes from Ajit Karve from Pune. I am a qualified TA Practitioner. I specialise in using TA for personal growth, personal development, personal effectiveness and for transformational change. I can be reached on +919822024037. Please feel free to seek clarifications by writing to me on ajitpkarve@gmail.com or taforyouandme@gmail.com. 

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