TA in Pills - 1-8.1 TA Script Theory 1 - Introducing the Concept of Script
TA Script Theory 1
(Script is a self authored life plan written in early childhood. It governs the general course of a person's life. It is 'directed' to achieve a life goal or script payoff. )
"Words with special meaning are marked * or ** in text and explained in Notes"
"Words with special meaning are marked * or ** in text and explained in Notes"
Our life course can be compared to rivers. Rivers are many and varied. Some are long and some are short. Some are perennial and some are seasonal. Some are calm and quiet and others are violent. Some sustain vegetation and farming while others support massive projects. So also are human lives. Some rivers empty waters into the sea. Some others end in marshy lands. Still others dry up midway in a desert. So also are human beings winners, non-winners or losers.
We have no choice of who we will be born to. They, our parents, may have no knowledge about why they chose to bring us up one way and not the other. And even if they had the knowledge, they could do little to change mid-way the way they were bringing us up even if they knew they were wrong. Some parents may be loving, caring, encouraging and promoting. Some others may be strict, disciplining and nurturing. Some others may be punitive, punishing, demanding. Still others may over occupied in making the round child fit in a square box. They used stories, examples, fairy tales and fables to get us to understand things.
Triplets were born to a couple. The mother was loving, caring and nurturing and father was a strict disciplinarian. The mother would never intervene or confront their father. The eldest of them thought: "I am no good so I should some how survive." The second of them thought: "They want to bring out the best out of me, I will give my best." The last one thought: "I will show them that they were wrong." The first one grew to be a punk*. The second became a high achiever. The third became a law abuser. Parental programming coupled with what sense we made about our value, worth and fitness decides our 'destiny'.
This example also highlights that it is one's view of oneself, of significant others and the quality of life entitlements on the one hand and on the other, the choice and decision we make that determines the life course.
Script is a self authored life plan. It determine's one's life course. It influences major choices that we make. Our perception, evaluation, assessments are structured by the sense and meaning that we almost automatically assign to people, events and occurrences. These in turn determine our attitude and nature of handling situations, problems, difficulties, conditions and challenges of life. Put together they structure our thinking, orientation and approach in living life.
Understanding four words help to understand script better. They are: meaning, personalization, cybernetics and decision. These will be explained in the next blog.
We have no choice of who we will be born to. They, our parents, may have no knowledge about why they chose to bring us up one way and not the other. And even if they had the knowledge, they could do little to change mid-way the way they were bringing us up even if they knew they were wrong. Some parents may be loving, caring, encouraging and promoting. Some others may be strict, disciplining and nurturing. Some others may be punitive, punishing, demanding. Still others may over occupied in making the round child fit in a square box. They used stories, examples, fairy tales and fables to get us to understand things.
Triplets were born to a couple. The mother was loving, caring and nurturing and father was a strict disciplinarian. The mother would never intervene or confront their father. The eldest of them thought: "I am no good so I should some how survive." The second of them thought: "They want to bring out the best out of me, I will give my best." The last one thought: "I will show them that they were wrong." The first one grew to be a punk*. The second became a high achiever. The third became a law abuser. Parental programming coupled with what sense we made about our value, worth and fitness decides our 'destiny'.
This example also highlights that it is one's view of oneself, of significant others and the quality of life entitlements on the one hand and on the other, the choice and decision we make that determines the life course.
Script is a self authored life plan. It determine's one's life course. It influences major choices that we make. Our perception, evaluation, assessments are structured by the sense and meaning that we almost automatically assign to people, events and occurrences. These in turn determine our attitude and nature of handling situations, problems, difficulties, conditions and challenges of life. Put together they structure our thinking, orientation and approach in living life.
Understanding four words help to understand script better. They are: meaning, personalization, cybernetics and decision. These will be explained in the next blog.
This blog comes from Ajit Karve from Pune. I am a qualified TA Practitioner. I specialise in using TA for personal growth, personal development, personal effectiveness and for transformational change. I can be reached on +919822024037. Please feel free to seek clarifications by writing to me on ajitpkarve@gmail.com or taforyouandme@gmail.com.
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This blog contents a very good summary of script formation. Thank you Ajit.
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