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TA Script Theory 10

(Script is a self authored life plan written in early childhood. It governs the general course of a person's life. It is 'directed' to achieve a life goal or script payoff. )
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Becoming Script-free - 2.3

In 1-8.8 the need to install Permissive Parent and Acquiescent Free Child were covered. In 1-8.9 Installing an Empowered Adult, Separating Person from Behaviour and Being Non-Expecting were covered. Now moving on:

• By noticing, recognising, engaging and interacting with the other. When I walk into the hall or kitchen of my house I make it a point to implement this four point formulation in the matter of my wife. I make myself aware that she is around. I look at her. I say hello, what are you doing. Then ask if she would like me to do something. Then move on. Elsewhere I do it routinely . . . . even with the watchman of our society. 

• In matters of transactions answer the question and not what the question appears to mean. If the question be: Are you free? Answer "Yes, I am free. or No. I am not free." to "Why are you sitting here?" Answer "Because there is nothing else to do." to "I am making coffee." Answer "OK, Fine."

• In matters of game engagement: roll back and move forward. The switch marks shift of topic. Return to the original topic and take it to completion. "Are you free." "Yes I am free." "I want to go out to the market." "Yes that is good, please go." "Will you come with me." "No, I will not come." "See, you have no time for me." "Oh! is that so." You asked: "Will you come with me." I answered: "No I will not come." You may now say: "I want you to come with me." Then my answer will be "yes".

• In matters of racket keep mind tagged to the basics. Learn the techniques of discarding various types of rackets. See methods in 1-7.2 and 1-7.3 .

• In matters of stroke implement stroke accounting by (1) Giving Strokes that you have with you to give or you wish to give. (2) Receiving the pleasant strokes others give you (3) Asking for strokes that you need (4) Rejecting painful strokes and (5) Doing Plenty of self stroking. 
• In matters of strokes make strokes impactful and lasting. Like for relationships it is better few deep relationships instead of many shallow relationships.

• The most important of all is that make no preparations, have no plan. Do the right and appropriate thing in the here now. We have no control over persons, events, occurrences, situations, problems, difficulties and challenges. But we surely have the capacity to respond sanely, safely, appropriately and with the goal to generating a win-win. Even if we miss out doesn't matter. Take time. Old habits die hard. Be at it. In my case small changes take roughly one to three months. Some as long as a year. 

I had mentioned in the first blog on becoming Script Free that I would address these processes later:

• Act in the moment without planning. I call this using the back door.

• Do many things that amount to accounting.

• Go deep below and dismantle the script.

I will be covering these in the next blog.

This blog comes from Ajit Karve from Pune. I am a qualified TA Practitioner. I specialise in using TA for personal growth, personal development, personal effectiveness and for transformational change. I can be reached on +919822024037. Please feel free to seek clarifications by writing to me on ajitpkarve@gmail.com or taforyouandme@gmail.com. 

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